Dale Decker, a Wisconsin man of 37 has over 100 intense orgasms every day, but does not have the privilege of enjoying a single one of them.
The sufferer of a rare condition called Persistent Sexual Arousal Syndrome, Decker says it has ruined his life.
"There is nothing pleasurable about it.. You are completely disgusted by what is going on," laments Decker. He is embarrassed of being near people, especially his kids and says going through an orgasm in public "is disgusting and can break your heart".
Decker shares a heartbreaking anecdote of how he had to go through nine orgasms, when his dead father was lying in his casket, with his entire family next to him.
"They happen in all situations.. They happen when I am awake, they happen when I am asleep, they happen in shower.. It is destroying every part of everything in my life," Decker reveals.
He was not born with the condition and was living a normal suburban life till 2012, before he slipped a disk in the back while getting out of a chair. It was during the ambulance ride to the hospital that Decker experienced the first five orgasms due to unknown reasons.
Since the accident, he has not worked and has remained mostly housebound, for the fear of triggering an orgasm in public.
"It happened to me at the grocery store and when it was over there were around 150 people looking straight at me - why would I leave the house when something like this can happen," he narrates.
His wife April Decker too feels the tremors of the unfortunate situation. "We really struggle right now as he is unable to work and supply for his family and I feel like all the strain is on me," she says with tears.
An emotional April added: "Because he sometimes has episodes at night we took the decision to sleep in separate beds. That can be very frustrating. You want the comfort from another person, particularly your husband but we don't have that."
The couple lives in Two Rivers with their sons Christian, 12, and Tayten, 11. "He struggles to be a good father to the children because they obviously don't understand what is happening," added April. "He can't take them to practice - can't play ball with them, it's really hard."
April is hopeful that the doctors would find a cure sooner or later and that her husband, the one with whom she used to have a lot of fun, would get back a normal life.
Gynaecologist Dr Dena Harris explains PSAS as a condition of unrelenting genital arousal that are not necessarily triggered by sexual reasons. Harris says that those with PSAS have no clue as to when and how often it would happen and it causes intense suffering.
"It's clear Dale is really suffering.. Being aroused can be a wonderful thing but this is not like arousal, it's not even sexual. It's a horrendous spasm and it can be terribly painful," Harris says of Decker's condition and warned, "I've got to be honest, there is help available but if Dale doesn't get help soon then there could be huge risks in the future."
